When you here about a guy crying on the eve of leaving his girlfriend behind in a foreign country as he heads back to his country of work things become more obvious. The love many find in the woman from the Philippines and other parts of asia are the women they have spent a life time seeking where morals, family loyalty and respect that hasnt been changed by western influences. Many people will say these women are seeking passports and wallets for which I can agree with some but not all. My wife for example lives in the Philippines and we have no interest in moving to the UK. Im not a rich man and never have been. BUT I can say all women are looking for security not only financial but a one woman man. Many have been cheated in the past and believe that a western guy is less likely to cheat. Which may sound bizarre but many are like me they have found a woman they are content with and no longer need to seek another and may have even changed some peoples view of women.
Getting back to the can it work the answer is Yes but there is a lot of heartache involved and a lot of being apart which makes things very difficult at times. Also due to the internet and its ways there have been many cottage scamming industries appearing in the East and the Philippines as many other countries suffers with these. Strong advice NEVER send any money. The problems were there before you came along leave them alone.. many will be pure lies from some of the women you will meet and some will be true. The differences between the two can be so suttle you may not notice the difference between a loyal loving woman needing help and a thief and con artist. My advise on this will always be if its so urgent go and see for yourself take 2 weeks off work, perfect reason to visit. If its all fake then youll know within no time and save a lot of heartache and worry and if genuine you will get to meet in person. The fact being most Asian women will not ask for money out of pride and it "not being the right thing".
How to spot a scammer you can buy my E-book for $10.00 and its likely to save you at least $1000 there are many traits hidden within conversations and they are not all straight for the cash many will work months on building your trust before they start harvesting theyre work with sick relatives needing medicine etc.
The positive side being many people I have delt with or met have been scammed in various forms but they have also met theyre match with another women, so dont think everyone is out to rob you because they arent. But there are many horror stories purely down to the simple maths. If you meet a geniune woman she may be talking to you and a couple of other guys until you know each other better and things become more progressive. A scammer can be talking to many guys, which is why the horror stories seem to show up more and also the fact most people are happily married.. when did you last read a newspaper story saying "hey everyones happy and nothing really happened lately?" simple answer no one cares about what good things are happening it doesnt make the news.
The dating game it takes many months to meet someone and build up the confidence and thoughts that I really want to meet this person. But it can be well worth the visit and wait and in my case im living proof. My experiences are mainly related to the Philippines so dont expect me to have all the answers. But one thing I will say is be patient your girlfriend is in a country that suffers with powercuts, telephones down and water that is on and off daily. So if you dont hear from her for a few days could be quite simply there is no electricity. Which has happend to myself on a few occassions same with mobile phone networks. Terrorism still exists here and one of the things blown up regular are Global communication towers (mobile phone masts). Your girlfriends life will be pretty harsh to come to as a reality and understanding what is what will take a bit of time. I was suprised when I got to the Philippines although not an OMG situation it was something I will remember. Not all things will be large enough to make a fuss but lots of little things such as having a large water container that you fill each time water is available so you can Pot wash because there is no running water for the shower when you get home at night. The culture shocks will be pretty big if youve lived in a part of the world where everything runs efficent and there is little poverty or crime.
Dating I would strongly advise visiting after you have known a bit about each other also if you have any doubts about things make sure your 100% about things before committing to anything serious. You are dealing with a country that has a lot of poor over 70% of the population and although your girlfriend may be wonderful she may have members of family creating pressure on her because "YOU" yes YOU are a millionaire. anyone earning more than around $20,000 or £10,000 makes you a millionaire and that amount goes a long way in the Philippines so be warned your new found love maybe the best thing since sliced bread but there are many who are willing to part a fool from his money.
The relationship can work and will work as long as you "both" are sure you can make it work there is a lot of deception which breeds from poverty and also the fact you being so rich that you can afford to lose it. Sound like a bad answer?? then your in the wrong mental state for long-term relationship. The problems in the Philippines arent yours you may be able to help in some ways but in many you will come out worse off. I have many examples and experiences I have come over which include helping members of family which then meant the guy was expected to help all members of family purely because theyre related. Other things included another person buying a motorcycle for a relation to run a small business and they ran the bike into the ground not even buying oil for it. Then expected the guy to repair the bike for them. My strongest advice dont get involved unless your prepared for the headaches that could follow. Dont give anything if your expecting anything back (many loans are seen as gifts and never even expected to be repaid). If you can get round this and you will get the support of your your girlfriend soon to be wife then your on to a happier and more fufilling life.
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